May 13 St. Andrew Fournet
Another in my series for Parents with Teenagers –
St. Andrew was born into a religious family in France in 1752. His mother insisted he be a priest. He had other ideas. It was a very rocky period during his teenage years. When the family wanted to send him to study for the priesthood in Poitiers, he agreed just to get away from his nagging mother. Once there he began a life of debauchery. The family gave him a ultimatium: Go live with his uncle the priest or lose all financial support. He went to the uncle. He found this priest to be humorous, understanding and firm. A combination definitely needed to calm a wild teenager. The uncle’s good example so moved Andrew that he turned his life around, returned to his studies, and felt the call to a vocation.
Parents of teenagers need to remember they are not alone. The luckiest have that special uncle/aunt/cousin to connect with the child. Many others find that role filled by friends of the parents. Others find those people in churches, schools, scouts, sports, Boys and Girls Clubs. And it is important for the rest of us to remember parents of teenagers need as much support as parents of new babies. Just a different sort of support.
April 11 Blessed George Gervase
George had quite the life. Raised Catholic in England, he was kidnapped by pirates after his parents died when he was 12. He ended up on Sir Francis Drake’s ship, sailing around the world, living the sailor’s life. Upon returning to England he returned to his childhood faith. He became a priest in Flanders. He was immediately sent on a mission to England during the time the English were killing priests. He survived two years before being arrested and banished. After a pilgrimage to Rome and joining the Benedictines, he once again returned to England. This time he was quickly arrested, sentenced to death, hanged, drawn and quarter at the Tyburn.
March 14 St. Matilda
Patron Saint of Parents With Disappointing Children
Poor Matilda. She had the misfortune of marrying someone she loved in the 900s. Her true love happened to be the Duke of Saxony who became King of Germany upon his father’s death. King Otto loved and admired his wife and by all accounts, the equal partners were good and just rulers. St. Matilda was a devout Christian and took over the social justice and homeland concerns of Germany while her husband managed the wars and money. They had five children whom they raised in the faith.
Upon her husband’s death, St. Matilda’s oldest son, Otto II took the crown. He continued to co-rule with mother until his younger brother Henry threw a fit. According to him, he should be, at the least, co-ruler, if not king. After raising an army and attempting an overthrow, St. Matilda at last convinced the two to work together and that she would step down. She began a second career establishing monasteries and convents with the family money. The two boys, doing as their mother wished, worked together to have her stripped of her money and rights. She was banished to her childhood home to live the rest of her life in relative poverty.
But her boys were not done. Her third son, Bruno, having become a priest, had become of of the most powerful men in the Northern European church. As bishop of Cologne, he had the power to raise armies, strike coins and levy taxes. As a duke he had the power of the king behind his actions. When he got wind of his brother Henry’s dealings with dissatisfied nobility, he stepped in and harshly reprimanded his brother. This led to Henry’s second attempt to take over the crown. By the end of the second attempt, Otto had become a hardened, cynical leader who solidified the Ottoman Empire. Henry was broken and physically ailing, dying shortly after the failed attempt. And Bruno was the velvet glove behind Otto’s iron fist, establishing the church as a powerful and feared entity in Northern Europe.
I think St. Matilda would have been happier if her children had chosen to become simple sheep herders.